Some things are just hard … or are they?
I was talking with a client the other day. She was sharing her frustration with a change she has been trying to make for some time, but she keeps sabotaging herself. She said she felt like “it’s a lot to let go of” and “it’s pretty massive giving it up”.
As someone who is always listening to the stories we tell ourselves, I was intrigued by the words she chose. Hard. Massive.
Boy, if I was trying to make a change that I told myself was “hard” and “massive”, what do you think my chances of success might be?
So I innocently offered: “Well, what if it weren’t hard? What if it were no big deal?”
You see, your thoughts and beliefs create your experience. I know I’ve talked about this before. But this is another great example where of this, one that you might be able to relate to.
Just as two people can witness the exact same event and have very different experiences, because they bring different beliefs to the table, two women can be confronted with wanting to make essentially the same change, but for one it seems easy while for the other it’s nearly impossible. Because they hold different beliefs, they have different stories about themselves and about the world.
What if you chose to change your story?
What if it were no big deal to do so?
Funny thing is, I recently found myself caught in this very same belief trap (this is why even coaches need coaches). I found myself stuck in thoughts like: “running a business is hard”, “marketing your services is hard”, “creating clients is hard”, and the like.
You see, in the past few months, I’ve been published in a number of very reputable sources (including being an expert contributor to an article in the Diabetes Council’s online site) and interviewed for podcasts and other live shows. In each of these, I invite people to a free consultation or offer them a discount on one of my services. And what have I been getting back? Crickets.
I could tell myself it’s just too hard, or even worse, “I suck” or “what I offer isn’t of value”, and react from that place.
Or I can tell myself something different. It’s easy. And fun!
I mean, when I think of the amazing people I’m privileged to be working with, it wasn’t “hard” connecting with them and partnering with them on their health journeys. In fact, it was, and is, a joy.
And that gets me to think of all the fun I get to have doing what I love. Whether it’s writing or speaking or connecting with clients individually or in groups. And that warms my heart.
Yup, I think I’m going to choose the easy and fun road. Ah, that feels liberating.
How about you? What stories have you been telling yourself? What have you been believing is hard? What if it weren’t? What if the opposite were true?
If you want to share your thoughts on this, send me an email.
In the meantime, I look forward to dancing with you on easy street.
p.s. Check out my latest video interview on the Dr. Jaime Show. You may learn a few things about me that you didn’t know. And please – leave a comment.